tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8399701802496487396.post6849697540043820975..comments2023-10-12T11:37:47.156-04:00Comments on ABSURDIST PARADISE: On Self-Confidence: Trying to Become Comfortable with Being My Messy SelfEarnest Englishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01947000435270263070noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8399701802496487396.post-68096211834799740942010-03-26T23:17:06.735-04:002010-03-26T23:17:06.735-04:00I can totally identify with this post. All of it....I can totally identify with this post. All of it. So sorry that you're experience rough transitions. My boy is almost four and I'm only on the t-t. Not a day goes by where i don't feel totally overwhelmed, exhausted, and spent. It's so hard. But from what I hear, it (parenting and working full time) gets easier. You will get through it!Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625377988852170518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8399701802496487396.post-34903067623564191322010-03-21T19:27:33.084-04:002010-03-21T19:27:33.084-04:00I'm not a parent but I get you on the messines...I'm not a parent but I get you on the messiness part. Funnily enough the semester I said "forget it, I'm messy, this is how it is," and was too burnt out to care, was the same semester I had the best evals and teaching moments ever. Like Ink said, know how wonderful you are now and let go of worrying about being messy! Just be! (easier said than done, I know)rented lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03794602752542828844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8399701802496487396.post-71214903278520446132010-03-20T13:50:10.972-04:002010-03-20T13:50:10.972-04:00I think that anxiety and guilt come with the paren...I think that anxiety and guilt come with the parenting package, and adding that to academic life, which also inspires anxiety and guilt to some degree... Well, it's a recipe for alcoholism. The only way to avoid that is to try your best and believe that it will all work out. I do think, even when you have a crazy kid like my 4-year-old, that parenting gets better and easier with time. I suspect teaching does too, just because you get more and more experienced. I know this past fall when I taught Shakespeare for the third time, it felt easy and pleasant for the first time. I'm sure it would continue to be that way in the future too. <br /><br />But one thing that helps me the most is having mom friends. You really need to have mom friends if you want to survive. And they should be working moms, so you're not sitting there feeling guilty about not staying at home. I know that my friends make me feel better all the time, just being there. Good luck.Fie upon this quiet life!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12047096700049201873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8399701802496487396.post-67991790317583221052010-03-20T12:36:23.427-04:002010-03-20T12:36:23.427-04:00Oh, sweetie. I understand! It's incredibly h...Oh, sweetie. I understand! It's incredibly hard to juggle parenting and professing. And you're SO not alone. <br /><br />I am only now feeling *somewhat* comfortable with the craziness, the messiness, the unpredictability of taking on both things at once! And my youngest just turned 4... ;) <br /><br />It's really good that you're articulating what you want to do and how you want to express who you are. But please know that YOU ARE WONDERFUL JUST AS YOU ARE. Right now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com